Lament is to deeply relate to, empathize for, have pit pity with, and emote with a person or situation that is going thought hardship, suffering, or injustice.  It is compassionate, caring, and consuming…

Grief is deeply personal, experientially first hand,  all consuming, irrational, inconsolable, thick, dark and clingy.  It is not linear.

I find it hard to move from lament to grief if I have not experienced trauma personally, however it is is essential that we at least start with lament to relate to other’s grief or injustice to be a catalyst for change.

I wish for a day that we can look back at ‘chemotherapy’ as archaic we do now as the efficacy as ‘blood letting’ of the 1700s.

Taking ‘poison’ to cure cancer seems ridiculous.

• Devo: I Peter 5:1-11 (Devo from Marc Rutter:  Cru LDHR: 8/13/19)
  • What are the perceived enemies within Cru or what are the targets?
    • Constant attack on moral failure (risk)
    • Having the ethnic/cultural piece explode in our face (?).

• • Where is your weakness:
    • Is my pride preventing me to risking failure?
      • Conflict avoidance
      • Not taking a significant leadership role.
      • Fear of being criticized for my writing.
      • Resistance intimacy /attachment issues /fear of loss (transparency vs vulnerability)
      • Image management (Arrogantly ponder even after I die: will I have the same impact/imprint that my dad and Mike did when they died?)
      • My mind…”CRS”
    • Is my shigata ga nai  (it can’t be helped/what can you do),  fatalism, preventing me from seeing the intensity of situations?
      • My MI, stents, (impending) death of family members,

Need to research of who were the camp directors their background and why they took these jobs.

1. Who they were: qualifications and backgrounds
2. Benevolent or malevolent
3. Were they there because they were conscious objectors?   What is a CO during war time and what did they do when they were conscripted
4. Who were the stand outs and why
5. Theory;  many directors were CO’s and many have had spirutlal (Christian) backgrounds, thus benevolent.  Need to explore this more

A book that needs to be written…: Kisses and Claws: A Perspective Raising An Adolescent Daughter

Why Kisses

Why Claws

Physiology: Cycles and Zits

Developmental Factors:

Influencers: Friends, Church, Parents and Social Media

Parental Perspective:  Slow the reaction and response

This Too Shall Pass:  What goes around comes around.

Mansplain “(of a man) explain (something) to someone, typically a woman, in a manner regarded as condescending or patronizing”

My take:  A feminist term that is use to squelch communication of a man  to a woman.

This is just an outline:

That terror call at night…informing of an accident

Where are you going?  Parents asks child.

When a parent dies, children as Where are you going?  To answer this as a parent is one of the most loving things a parent can do for their child.

I am a capitalist to the core.  I believe in free market.  I understand that this is not a ‘perfect’ system, but I do not see any other system that does the most good for the most people and gives incentives for those to create and prosper.

What I do not understand is how many CEO’s can make millions of dollars AFTER they drive a company into the ground.  I believe in rewarding profit  and positive performance (yes, even in the millions) but not rewarding poor performance.

Furthermore how do BOARDS allow this to happen while shareholders are getting the short end of the stick?  Boards who give incentives for performance is appreciated, but in times of loss, how do they have the conscious and lack fiduciary responsibility to shareholders for these atrocities .  I’ve heard the argument that ‘we won’t attract the best talent if we don’t offer these incentives.”  I call that total bull shirt!  There is no way the managers of a company would allow their underlings to get paid a bonus if they screwed up!

Something needs to change!  I’m pissed.  This is NOT a free market capitalist concept to reward failure.

This is my book idea:  Looking into different Rights of Passage in several different cultures.

Overview:  Distinct cultural praxis and nuance are most often apparent in commemorations of life stage transitions. Ritual, artifacts, and beliefs can overtly manifest at a birth of  a child, birthdays, coming of age, graduations, anniversaries,  courtship, weddings, retirement,  funerals, etc. Each culture has its own expression during these milestones.

It would be a fun study to bring these to the light and also help serve as a guide to become more culturally proficient.